I’ve been musing on what it means to compromise over the last few days.

Compromise is surely the great standard-bearer for peace. Without compromise there is no peace. Concessions between two parties be they individuals, ideologies, political parties or warring nations are nothing without some kind of compromise. It is therefore desperately important that we understand what compromise means.

There is also another way of looking at compromise. That it is a restraint. It holds us back. A large part of who we are and what we do is a compromise. Consider your work. It is for a very lucky few of us that our work is what we actually enjoy and choose to do. For the vast majority we have had to compromise. We have had to settle on less than what we wanted to actually be doing. The compromise in this instance is with ourselves; it is because we need money, we don’t want to lose face in front of parents, peers or observers that we don’t have a job perhaps, that we need to be doing something.

Compromise is therefore pervasive, it bleeds into our lives, it resides in our relationships, it lands us into work that perhaps we didn’t want to do, into our groups and social gathering, into our organisations, into our hearts and minds.

You are compromising in some instances because you have settled for the moment on who you are. The energy is gone to challenge and change yourself and to not compromise. To not settle for what were in your hopes as you were growing up. You have sacrificed this energy perhaps to align to perceived social norms e.g. family, children, house, car, job.

Consider compromise as a two-headed Chimera, in some instances dissolving who you wanted to be to the person that you are today. It also lends itself to higher things such as peace and empathy.

Such a powerful word hence the musing that I have been doing. My thinking on this has not ended yet.

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Bad kids

I was surfing my usual haunts and checking out little things that were taking my interest and landed on a site that’s advertising vodka. While watching this little video that I linked onto through Trendland I landed on a pretty cool video and then more importantly was the song and tune that went with it.

It’s called Bad Kids by the Black Lips – the video I chanced upon is here, it has some pretty relaxed New Yorkers chilling out round a pool and having some fun. Who doesn’t like chilling out round a pool with girls in bikini’s; I don’t mind one bit.

More to my specific point I love it when I chance upon some new music. The Black Lips track slipped into my listening buds smoothly and then as I dug into more of their music I found myself checking out some other stuff too.

It tapped into my liking of garage rock, flower punk, grunge, indie music – I like it all really but some things are bit more like poetry than the rest.

So I came across (and some of it’s old & some’s a little newer):

The Stains – Now & Then

The Sonics – The Witch (and who doesn’t want to see Raquel Welch doing some witchy moves)

The Strange Boys – Be Brave

I then land on a neat beat video by Thomas Nossner entitled, “The Beat of New York”. People are great. I love the old and young, the styles, the colours, that it’s people going about their business, the sounds of life.

Be brave, have a shufty with your listen buds xx

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While the city sleeps, we rule the streets

Whoooo it’s been a busy week!

I’ve been trying to catch up with some reading this week and have a good few books that have been begging for my attention since Christmas! I’m currently making my way through a book called, “Superfreakonomics”.

I read the first book, “Freakonomics” by Levitt & Dubner a number of years ago and it opened a new way of thinking about social issues to me. I’m hoping the second one is just as interesting.

This week I’ve also been listening to Die Antwoord…”Yo’ Ninja go…”. Yolandi Vi$$er is gorgeous, get all up on the, “Interweb…worldwide”. Left click this up.

I’ve long been an admirer of Natalie Dee’s little comic ditty’s. They’re beautifully to the point, there are loads of archived material too. I’m absolutely positive that Natalie would mind but when I’ve been putting together little letters or cards for people I’ve sometimes pasted some of her images into the card and, depending on who it’s for, maybe a couple of pictures of naked women too.

Why give cards that people don’t want is what I say – try pasting a couple of inappropriate images for that person into your cards, they’ll love you for it!

Wilma has been even busier this week; the shop is looking amazing now and the first two weeks have been such a tremendous success. It is growing so quickly and we noticed a real ripple in the number of people who are viewing the site and bidding on the clothes. Wilma (aka Vicky) is so pleased and a huge thank-you to everyone that has contributed in spreading the word and who have also purchased items from the site. It’s not gone viral yet but there is absolutely no doubt that those that have entered on the ground floor will hopefully see this grow…

We hope you too can stop by and see what’s in the shop.


We know that people are mega interested in the products and that has driven Wilma on to source some really nice pieces for the shop. Have a quick look to see if you like it! x

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Edward Thomas

Lately I’ve been reading Edward Thomas’ poems. It was purely by chance that I picked up a little booklet of Mr. Thomas’ work and began reading a little while ago.

They are beautiful bits of work. A couple that I really enjoy are these ones…


Rain, midnight rain, nothing but the wild rain
On this bleak hut, and solitude, and me
Remembering again that I shall die
And neither hear the rain nor give it thanks
For washing me cleaner than I have been
Since I was born into this solitude.
Blessed are the dead that the rain rains upon:
But here I pray that none whom once I loved
Is dying to-night or lying still awake
Solitary, listening to the rain,
Either in pain or thus in sympathy
Helpless among the living and the dead,
Like a cold water among broken reeds,
Myriads of broken reeds all still and stiff,
Like me who have no love which this wild rain
Has not dissolved except the love of death,
If love it be towards what is perfect and
Cannot, the tempest tells me, disappoint.


Over the land half freckled with snow half-thawed
The speculating rooks at their nests cawed,
And saw from elm-tops, delicate as a flower of grass,
What we below could not see, Winter pass.

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Dr. Martens

I am really feeling for some beat up Dr. Martens at the moment. I like boots and when I have enough money saved they’ll find their way into my wardrobe!

The people that have worn Dr. Martens is long and distinguished – Depeche Mode, Dave Grohl, Red Hot Chilli Peppers, Morrissey, The Clash to name a few.

The raw element of Dr. Martens is also palpable and this is the appeal to me too. They have life and soul. I like that. Working in a pair of “DM’s” will be my autumn goal I think!

Let’s do the airwalk!

Catch you soon people x

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Girls with shaved heads

Shaving your head

Winston: “I liked it when you had short hair”
Wilma: “Shall I shave the side of my head?”
Winston: “Yes, you should do it”
Wilma: “Ok I’ll do it, will you do it for me?”
Winston: “I wouldn’t feel comfortable cutting your hair for you”
Wilma: “Well, I could get it done at the hairdressers tomorrow”
Winston: “That will be just great, do it, do it, do it”

Accompanying Wilma to the hairdressers the next morning she had little sweaty palms as thoughts of her beautiful long hair was going to be cut and shaved on one side. We both stepped into the hairdressers and asked the lovely young lady to cut the hair off and shave one side of Wilma’s head. The young lady hairdresser paused unsure perhaps that she had heard us correctly.

Wilma sat down and the chopping commenced, the rest of the story is embellishment. What does it bring? It brought an edgy look, something a little bit different – it draws looks from people, some have openly commented as we have walked together. Two young girls tucking into their lunches in a Pizza Express – one that has those wide open windows – paused their conversation with one of them saying, “Did you see that girl’s hair?”

Fancy it?!

Do it, do it, do it!

Oh yes…and Wilma of course! x


Wilma’s worked really hard this last three days to put some of her collection of vintage, beautiful clothes up. More are going up today or tomorrow…the vintage bright blue cardigan you see above is part of the collection and is being bid upon right now! How exciting it is!

You can get to Wilma by clicking the link to her shop on the right or by following this link to her Ebay Shop here.

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Wilma’s up!

Wilma’s managed to get her collection online!

So much hard work has gone into choosing this collection of clothing. It has been painstakingly chosen from lots of different locations within London and while on her travels! It’s been a labour of love though and Wilma’s regularly updating me with progress – it’s been rapid and it’s a great testament to her that this is now up and running. You can find Wilma here…Wilma & Winston

Our house is full of fashion magazines, articles, various different books, textiles, colours and different accessories that have all added to the overall feel that our house is now a mini fashion house!

One of our rooms now resembles a small shop of racks of clothing that Wilma has gathered together, a sewing machine sits in the corner with a tape measure drapped across it and textiles, cotton and sparkly buttons are on every available space!

It’s really exciting that you can join us at the start of this little venture and we really hope you enjoy the pieces and see something unique that you like. I was reading an article in the Telegraph newspaper here in the UK today that talked of the growing shift towards vintage items. Telegraph article

What is “vintage” is an interesting question and one in which the Telegraph article discusses a little. Both Wayne Hemmingway the designer and founder of Red or Dead and Carmen Haid of Atelier-Mayer ( discuss that vintage strictly speaking is 20 to 25 years old. Hemmingway is a little more open to vintage in terms of the decade it comes from being a little blurry.

My view is that vintage is interchangeable with a number of time periods and can represent perhaps the 1980’s and 1990’s despite it’s relative closeness in terms of history. Vintage seems to umbrella not just the myopic view of the “age” of piece of clothing, it is in my view more about the style represented, the way it is worn and what the item is worn with. Vintage can encapsulate the beauty of an age with perhaps a little piece of the modern drafted in too to make it more in keeping with today’s fashion zeitgeist. Maybe it should be called, “Reinvintaged”!

I think that people are shifting their view on what they want from retailers and that we are already at the point in which the fashion conscious individual is looking towards a holistic approach to their fashion decisions.

This holistic approach is about responsbility to the environment, an ethical decision that you are “upcycling” as it is described in the Telegraph article and also that you want to find a beautiful pattern or colour that is different, that perhaps you are looking for a better fit or shape to your clothing or you want to be utterly unique and know that no-one else will have this piece (potentially of art) that you are wearing.

Modern large retailers will always struggle to get this as they balance their overheads with volume and the needs and pressures to homogenise to keep costs lower.

Everything in Wilma’s collection is absolutely hand picked and some have had her beautiful little hands adjust them too – these adjustments have been done to add a perhaps more contemporary look.

We both really hope above all else you enjoy the pieces and if you see something you like then put a bid in, you never know you could well be wearing out a stunningly cute little piece that shines and compliments your beauty!

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